‘I’m not mentally ready for kids’: Vicky Pattison, 35, reveals she will keep some eggs unfertilised during IVF journey ‘to protect herself’ in case she and fiancé Ercan Ramadan split up
Vicky Pattison has spoken candidly about her journey to motherhood.
The Geordie Shore star, 35, who is engaged to fiancé Ercan Ramadan and in the process of freezing her eggs, said this week that she’s undertaking the process as she’s ‘not mentally ready for kids’.
In an in-depth chat with Women’s Health UK, Vicky said she keeping some eggs for her herself and unfertilised to ‘protect herself and her happiness’ if she and Ercan ever break up.
‘My journey to motherhood didn’t look like the Disney ones, the fairytales. I didn’t find someone to love me for a really long time,’ she said.
‘I know our relationship is in its infancy, we’ve been together four years and there’s still so much to learn about each other before we chuck sleepless nights into the mix.’
‘I’m protecting me and my happiness’: Vicky Pattison revealed this week that she’s freezing her eggs as she’s ‘not mentally ready for kids’ and will keep some unfertilised so she can use them if she and fiancé Ercan Ramadan split up
‘I know nobody is every ready… but I just know we’re not ready and unfortunately my body may not be ready for when I am mentally,’ she explained.
‘We’re going to start our frozen family and I am also going to keep some eggs just for me. Who knows what the future holds.’
Explaining her decision, Vicky said she’s ‘protecting herself and her happiness’.
‘I adore him and him me. Nobody wants to break up and divorce and I’m sure we wont but I’m protecting me and my happiness,’ she said.
She added: ‘I think it’s dead important we all know there are many different routes to motherhood.’
Earlier this week, Vicky told her Instagram followers that she suffered a setback with her fertility journey.
She said she has a cyst on her ovaries which has to be removed before she can continue with treatment.
Sharing her experience with her fans, Vicky, said the latest news left her feeling understandably emotional.
‘I know nobody is every ready… but I just know we’re not ready and unfortunately my body may not be ready for when I am mentally,’ she explained
Emotional: Earlier this week, Vicky told her Instagram followers that she suffered a setback with her fertility journey. She said she has a cyst on her ovaries which has to be removed before she can continue with treatment
She wrote: ‘Unfortunately yesterday didn’t go as planned and I have another cyst on one of my ovaries.
‘As the injections I would have to administer as part of my fertility treatment are predominantly oestrogen- rather than stimulating the ovary follicles which is what we want to happen- it would end up instead predominantly feeding the cyst and treatment would be wasted.
‘I’m naturally a little bit disappointed and spent most of yesterday crying and just feeling super drained- it was as if someone had let all the air out of a balloon.
‘But I suppose that was just all the angst and nervous energy leaving my body and making me feel like a human raisin.’
‘I’m naturally a little bit disappointed’: She wrote about her experience so that other people would see that lots of women are going through the same thing
Going through it together: Vicky shared this picture of herself with Ercan outside the fertility centre in December
She continued: ‘This is pretty common and as I am beginning to learn these journeys aren’t often linear and there may be plenty more ups and downs for me as I go.
‘So I need to brace myself for that and be thankful that I’m in a position to have options – which I truly am.
‘I want more women to know that it isn’t easy for lots of us. .. and you’re not alone. No matter how it may feel.
‘I’ve made my peace with this today- I’m going back to work, I’m going to focus on other things and I will try again next month ♥️.’
Ercan got down on one knee in February last year, with the couple planning a 2024 wedding.
Speaking of their upcoming nuptials, Vicky said at the end of last year: ‘And I can’t believe in a few days time I’ll be able to say – we get married next year, Arghhhhhhh!!! Our next chapter will be our most exciting yet.’
FREEZING YOUR EGGS: THE FACTS
Freezing eggs means going through the IVF process, which typically takes two to three weeks.
This involves taking drugs to boost the production of eggs, and also to help the eggs mature.
Once the eggs are ready, women are placed under general anaesthetic while they are collected – typically around 15 eggs, although this isn’t always possible for women with lower reserves.
Next, a freezing solution is added to the eggs to protect them, then they are frozen and stored in tanks of liquid nitrogen.
When the woman is ready to use the eggs, they are thawed and those that have survived intact are injected with sperm.
Source: Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority